How did you master the art of attaching and detaching your body and soul with your Ex or new soul & body mate?

While I understand the pain in a break up....It was only a 5 month relationship....man I have been sick longer then that...I think you need to put her out of you mind...man up and get the f*ck over it....I really am not trying to be hard....but dude you don't really feel real love after 5 months....real love grows slowly with all the the trial and tribulations of life....so learn from this and move on..by the is a physical response...it does not need to have any affect on your soul....a pretty girl and a little kissing and rubbing and there you are....I know this is probably not what you expected from me...but honestly...dude...I was married for 18 years and did not go through as much pain as you are...I did wonder for a little bit if I would ever find anyone else...but you know I knew I was worth loving it only took me about 8 more years to find the guy who was ready to love me the "right" way....