Where did you turn for help during your divorce?

After much agonizing deliberation I have decided that I will leave my husband. I am reluctant to enact this change but for various reasons I know I must. He does not function normally and cannot hold down a job, it is also very hard for him to look for a new job once he is fired. He is very very lazy and has become quite a couch potato. Regardless of these things, I love the guy. I love him like a brother. I am not attracted to him anymore, but I do not want to hurt him and I want him to eventually find happiness. I have "already checked out" and I am not interested in trying to help him anymore or trying to mother him. I have a daughter now and since she was born I have realized that I have two children. THe unemployment will run out eventually, but I don't want to wait for it and waste more of my life. I still hold onto hope that he will change and get a job and keep a job and turn into a great person, but at this point I know in my heart that even if it did happen my feelings for him could not return. Given this information, my mother is a combination of cruel and crazy, and I am fairly certain that she will not take me in while I get back on my feet. SHe would blame me for ruining my husband's life and even more likely decide for me that I am not "allowed" to get a divorce. She generally cools down after several days of wigging out however. I am so afraid of what she will say that I have put off leaving my husband for a *very* long time. I finally realize how silly this was, I guess old habits die hard. haha. Anyway, my other option is to move in with my friend, I'm so afraid. What do you think I should do? I was considering talking to my mother beforehand to test the waters, and if possible get her on my side in advance. I'm not even sure I can do this.